What am I bringing to Thanksgiving this year? A politics-free zone (and maybe gravy)

There is plenty to bring to Thanksgiving on Thursday: turkey, cranberry sauce, green bean casserole and, of course, pumpkin pie. But there is something to leave at home this year: your political opinions.

Emotions are oh-so-raw in the wake of the recent elections.

One group of us is shaking our heads in disbelief while another is reveling in its newfound success. The result is widespread distrust and disapproval of those from the opposite party and an ever-widening schism that is tearing households and communities apart.

Even before the election, Americans were stressed out about politics.

Last year, a Pew Research poll found that 65% of Americans felt exhausted by politics and 55% felt angry whenever the topic came up. Only 10% reported feeling hopeful about the impending elections.

Unfortunately, few of us are able or willing to transcend this political angst and say, “Our mental health and our relationships are far more important than whoever is in the White House. Let’s get along with each other no matter how we vote.”

That’s why I declare this Thanksgiving to be politics-free. I don’t care which candidate’s sign you had in your front yard or which boxes you checked on your ballot. I only want us to be kind, courteous and respectful to one another.

This is not an impossible task. Here’s how to get it done:

• Arrive at Thanksgiving with a good attitude. No matter how difficult your clan may be, or how much you disagree with their views, you can tolerate them for a few hours. Show up with a smile on your face and get along with everyone.
• Keep your opinions to yourself. Nobody wants to hear your ranting — even if you’re convinced that you’re right.
• If someone brings up politics, change the subject: A gentle, “You know, everyone has gone to a lot of trouble to make a lovely meal for us today. Let’s talk about something else.” If the offender insists, excuse yourself and leave the room. Whatever you do, don’t take the bait.
• Limit your amount of alcohol. Nothing sets the stage for political melee like a few too many beers. Know your tolerance and stay within those bounds.
• Don’t discuss politics around the table. Even if you’re all equally thrilled or disgusted by the results, politics is taboo. Political talk inevitably creates anxiety and induces anger. And research shows that anger increases blood pressure and heart rate and discourages constructive social interaction. It also impacts areas of the brain that impair decision making. None of these contribute to a positive holiday get together.
• Engage with others in a constructive way. Play catch with your nephew. Ask your father-in-law about his latest fishing trip. Or offer to make gravy.

Don’t get me wrong about politics.

I’m rabid about the importance of voting and pride myself on keeping abreast of current issues. But I’m equally passionate about getting along. Nothing matters more than strong, caring relationships with our loved ones and neighbors.