I propose giving Mother’s Day a makeover. It’s time for a new hairstyle and wardrobe to replace an outdated style. My reasoning? Mother’s Day focuses on women’s roles as childbearers and child raisers. We say a deserved “thank you” to those who gave us life and who stayed awake until we were safely home.
Yet, even though motherhood is one very important element of being female, it’s not the only descriptor of a woman’s life.
Women I know own restaurants, write software, run for office, fundraise for corporations, sing in nightclubs, and make artisanal cheese. Many do this while driving car pools, tending to elderly parents and doting on their mates.
Women’s contributions often go unnoticed. They slide in under the radar when nobody’s looking. A mom is up all night with a fussy toddler even though her own temperature spikes at 102. Another takes a week off work to help her mother recover from surgery. No one gets a gold star for these heroic actions. It’s just another ho-hum event in awoman’s day.
Women have an uncanny ability to care for their loved ones. They endlessly scan the skies from their family control tower, responding to clues too subtle for others to pick up. When the acute tracking system detects a hint of a problem, they’ll be there to smooth things out.
Women also write the book when it comes to friendship. They never forget a birthday. They send just-right cards at appropriate times. They adjust necklaces that are cockeyed and discreetly let us know when we have spinach in our teeth. All this is performed in an “I-love-you” manner that leaves us feeling safe and adored.
That’s why I propose expanding the scope of Mother’s Day. I want to honor the incredible energy inherent in the gender, and not limit it to those who’ve had morning sickness.
I vote to expand the criteria for membership so that more fabulous, deserving women are included on the roster. Women who have opted to pass on maternity, were unable to have children or have offspring who are deceased are no less worthy than their more fertile sisters. There are also folks like me, whose mothers have passed away. Mother’s Day finds us sadly watching from the sidelines, feeling unworthy of playing in the game.
Even those women who do have children are engaged in child care for a short period of their lives.
So let’s denote Sunday as Incredible Energy of Women’s Day. Here’s a toast to the great women in our lives. “Cheers!” to procreation and all the blessings two X chromosomes confer.
Spread the love to all the women in your life
You can celebrate the Incredible Energy of Women’s Day by:
Contacting the key players. Let all your great women know you love them. Don’t be shy! Friend them on Facebook. Take them to lunch. Send them a card. Go on a walk. Share your inner feelings. I bet they feel the same way about you.
Building your own network. Women are at their most energetic when they’re in groups. Whether you join a book group, attend a Bible study or play bunco, the incredible energy is sure to arise.
Being a great role model. The incredible energy is contagious. We catch it from women we see. Demonstrate joy and enthusiasm in everyday activities. Others will get the bug.
Accepting your stage of life. Women’s lives tend to unfold along distinctive time lines. Careerbuilding, caring for tiny children and empty-nesting all entail different responsibilities and tasks. Honor where you are in your life. Find enjoyment in what you do. This stage won’t last forever. Nothing ever does.
Embracing all that you are. You are a complex and wonderful female. You have much to contribute to the world. Free yourself from the need to be more. You are enough as you are.
Releasing expectations. Women battle an army of destructive images. Many feel the need to be thin and beautiful. Others want to be perfect in all they do. Rather than trying to please others, decide who you are and what you want. Only you know the best answers. That’s the “incredible energy” you possess.